If you are trying to get back your girlfriend, you'll have to approach the situation with a lot of care. Understand that a lot of feelings, both yours and hers were injured and that it will take a while for them to heal. A good deal of self control will be needed so that you won't stir up the old arguments that brought about the break up.
Here are some suggestions:
It really helps to reflect on the reason for the breakup and whether changes are possible that will improve your relationship. Can you do anything to guarantee that further breakups will not occur in the future? Compromise will certainly be needed. Will it be possible for you to live with them? Will she accept them? Knowing why the breakup happened will help you to avoid triggering the usual conflicts when you first try to get her back.
Two things will be necessary that will contradict each other. On the one hand, it's essential for you to keep in touch with her. On the other, you mustn't overdo your efforts because this will scare her away. In fact, contact with her should be reduced but not completely stopped.
You will have to let her know in a subtle and casual way that you still want to be a part of her life. Communication should be relaxed, casual, and not too frequent. Drop her the occasional "Hey, what's up" email but don't load up her inbox because you will come across as pushy, desperate, or needy.
Find harmless and positive ways that show that you are still thinking about her. Let her know that you care by remembering anniversaries and other important dates in her life. Send her a card on the holidays and on her birthday.
It's important not to allow yourself to be cut off from the world. Enjoy your other friendships and maintain a social life. This will help you to stay upbeat and confident. Your ex must never get the impression that you are falling apart over the break up.
You should be showing her that you're just fine but that you still care about her. This allows her to reassess the good times that you had together without feeling pressured.
Then you will have to make an effort to be her friend again. This will remind her of the enjoyable things that you shared together and build trust. With time, this trust will grow stronger and bring the two of you closer together.
When it comes to winning back your ex, there's no exact method but these suggestions will get you started. Staying in touch with her is vital but remember to keep it subtle. Get too aggressive and you'll scare her away. - 16035
Here are some suggestions:
It really helps to reflect on the reason for the breakup and whether changes are possible that will improve your relationship. Can you do anything to guarantee that further breakups will not occur in the future? Compromise will certainly be needed. Will it be possible for you to live with them? Will she accept them? Knowing why the breakup happened will help you to avoid triggering the usual conflicts when you first try to get her back.
Two things will be necessary that will contradict each other. On the one hand, it's essential for you to keep in touch with her. On the other, you mustn't overdo your efforts because this will scare her away. In fact, contact with her should be reduced but not completely stopped.
You will have to let her know in a subtle and casual way that you still want to be a part of her life. Communication should be relaxed, casual, and not too frequent. Drop her the occasional "Hey, what's up" email but don't load up her inbox because you will come across as pushy, desperate, or needy.
Find harmless and positive ways that show that you are still thinking about her. Let her know that you care by remembering anniversaries and other important dates in her life. Send her a card on the holidays and on her birthday.
It's important not to allow yourself to be cut off from the world. Enjoy your other friendships and maintain a social life. This will help you to stay upbeat and confident. Your ex must never get the impression that you are falling apart over the break up.
You should be showing her that you're just fine but that you still care about her. This allows her to reassess the good times that you had together without feeling pressured.
Then you will have to make an effort to be her friend again. This will remind her of the enjoyable things that you shared together and build trust. With time, this trust will grow stronger and bring the two of you closer together.
When it comes to winning back your ex, there's no exact method but these suggestions will get you started. Staying in touch with her is vital but remember to keep it subtle. Get too aggressive and you'll scare her away. - 16035
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