In the dating scene, when we are faced with so much rejection and insecurity, it can be easy to give into bad emotions.
We'll feel we're doomed to being alone forever because we think we are too fat, ugly, short, old, bald, or whatever it is you feel insecure about.
However, the real issue isn't that we feel unattractive. It's that we're punishing ourselves over our own insecurities! If we give way to these negative thoughts and emotions, its going to be extremely difficult to find someone to date, because no woman wants to be with a man who doesn't like himself.
This is why, as much as possible, it is important to inject lots of positivity into our lives.
In order to do this, you need to learn how to replace your bad thoughts, with good ones. If you begin to repeat these good thoughts, eventually you'll train yourself to focus on the positive, rather than the negative.
Every morning after you wake up, and every evening before you go to bed, try and rehearse these positive thoughts in your mind, or out loud...
1. The more I like myself, the more others will like me.
2. I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do.
3. I am highly creative, intelligent, attractive, energetic, witty, smart, healthy, wealthy and wise.
4. I love myself unconditionally just as I am - despite any flaws I may have.
5. I am self-sufficient, and do not rely on the approval of others to feel good about myself.
6. I feel comfortable around other people.
7. Other people like me and enjoy my presence.
8. I am fun and exciting to be with because I always have a good time.
9. I am comfortable talking to women.
10. I am comfortable interacting with women.
11. Women to whom I pay attention are extremely lucky - I am what women want.
12. I do not feel guilty about my desires.
13. I have to look my best all the time.
14. Women must prove themselves worthy of my time and attention in order to receive it. I am the prize.
15. Any woman would be lucky to have a great guy like me in their life.
Some guys might not feel authentic when reciting these positive thoughts. Sometimes, we become so used to negative emotions, they feel more comfortable than the positive ones!
This is about getting used to thinking in a way that bolsters your strength and confidence, rather than tearing yourself down and re-enforcing bad thoughts and feelings. You're not trying to lie to yourself to feel good, you're trying to find truths about yourself that actually MAKE you feel good.
If you don't feel comfortable with any of the above thoughts, then change them so that you do feel comfortable with them. As long as the change re-enforces a positive thought and emotion, it's acceptable.
It is impossible to attract women if you don't feel you deserve to. After all, if you don't think you're someone who is entitled to happiness, who else will? Just remember that people are attracted to positivity, so be positive about yourself, and you'll become attractive to others - no matter what you think your shortcomings are. - 16035
We'll feel we're doomed to being alone forever because we think we are too fat, ugly, short, old, bald, or whatever it is you feel insecure about.
However, the real issue isn't that we feel unattractive. It's that we're punishing ourselves over our own insecurities! If we give way to these negative thoughts and emotions, its going to be extremely difficult to find someone to date, because no woman wants to be with a man who doesn't like himself.
This is why, as much as possible, it is important to inject lots of positivity into our lives.
In order to do this, you need to learn how to replace your bad thoughts, with good ones. If you begin to repeat these good thoughts, eventually you'll train yourself to focus on the positive, rather than the negative.
Every morning after you wake up, and every evening before you go to bed, try and rehearse these positive thoughts in your mind, or out loud...
1. The more I like myself, the more others will like me.
2. I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do.
3. I am highly creative, intelligent, attractive, energetic, witty, smart, healthy, wealthy and wise.
4. I love myself unconditionally just as I am - despite any flaws I may have.
5. I am self-sufficient, and do not rely on the approval of others to feel good about myself.
6. I feel comfortable around other people.
7. Other people like me and enjoy my presence.
8. I am fun and exciting to be with because I always have a good time.
9. I am comfortable talking to women.
10. I am comfortable interacting with women.
11. Women to whom I pay attention are extremely lucky - I am what women want.
12. I do not feel guilty about my desires.
13. I have to look my best all the time.
14. Women must prove themselves worthy of my time and attention in order to receive it. I am the prize.
15. Any woman would be lucky to have a great guy like me in their life.
Some guys might not feel authentic when reciting these positive thoughts. Sometimes, we become so used to negative emotions, they feel more comfortable than the positive ones!
This is about getting used to thinking in a way that bolsters your strength and confidence, rather than tearing yourself down and re-enforcing bad thoughts and feelings. You're not trying to lie to yourself to feel good, you're trying to find truths about yourself that actually MAKE you feel good.
If you don't feel comfortable with any of the above thoughts, then change them so that you do feel comfortable with them. As long as the change re-enforces a positive thought and emotion, it's acceptable.
It is impossible to attract women if you don't feel you deserve to. After all, if you don't think you're someone who is entitled to happiness, who else will? Just remember that people are attracted to positivity, so be positive about yourself, and you'll become attractive to others - no matter what you think your shortcomings are. - 16035
About the Author:
Joseph Matthews has been instructing guys how to meet women since 2004, and is widely recognized as an authority in the field of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to discover more about how to meet women, check out his complimentary newsletter.
