The pain of breaking up is a very profound type of injury that is very similar to the grief felt over someone who has passed away. Your significant other has left, leaving a hole in you that refuses to heal. Your relationship with your ex has died, never to be experienced again.
As with all of the traumatic events that people go through in their lives, life must go on. It is vital to your own well being to find a way to look past the pain. Getting on with your life should be more than surviving, you want to be thriving again. Below are some suggestions for getting past the pain and moving on.
1.) Immerse yourself in with other people and your friends. Even without your ex, there are other people in your life who also matter. Don't try to be a lone wolf.
Trying to go it alone will only make your efforts at getting past the pain much harder to do. So give your friends a chance and let them help.
2.) Don't dwell on the breakup or on the lost relationship. It's normal to want to review every small detail of the break up, but if the relationship is truly over, there's no point to this.
As I said before, being with other people is important for getting past the pain. Seeking advice about your breakup can be therapeutic but don't overburden them with this. The reason for being with people is to get out and have some fun.
3.) You may want to be careful about the type of music you listen to. For now at least, avoid listening to any songs that will bring out the emotional pain that you're trying to overcome. Music is incredibly powerful at manipulating your emotions. So listen to something happy and upbeat.
4.) Don't get snagged by the self pity, sadness trap, because you could get drawn into the living death called depression. Believe me when I tell you that you do not want to end up there. Depression is a type of mental illness which disrupts and harms the lives of those afflicted with it.
Romantic movies and music sometimes have this "sweet melancholy" that seems beautiful and feels good. But this sadness is artificially induced and ends with the conclusion of the movie or song. But true sadness comes from within ourselves and is a trap that may never let us back out.
5.) Finally and most importantly, be optimistic about your life and make plans for the future. This also applies to your love life. People the world over and throughout history have had breakups and have moved on to live happy lives.
It may be that you can reunite with your ex. But if it isn't in the cards, then there will be another someone in your life. You need only put forth the effort and just go ahead and do it. - 16035
As with all of the traumatic events that people go through in their lives, life must go on. It is vital to your own well being to find a way to look past the pain. Getting on with your life should be more than surviving, you want to be thriving again. Below are some suggestions for getting past the pain and moving on.
1.) Immerse yourself in with other people and your friends. Even without your ex, there are other people in your life who also matter. Don't try to be a lone wolf.
Trying to go it alone will only make your efforts at getting past the pain much harder to do. So give your friends a chance and let them help.
2.) Don't dwell on the breakup or on the lost relationship. It's normal to want to review every small detail of the break up, but if the relationship is truly over, there's no point to this.
As I said before, being with other people is important for getting past the pain. Seeking advice about your breakup can be therapeutic but don't overburden them with this. The reason for being with people is to get out and have some fun.
3.) You may want to be careful about the type of music you listen to. For now at least, avoid listening to any songs that will bring out the emotional pain that you're trying to overcome. Music is incredibly powerful at manipulating your emotions. So listen to something happy and upbeat.
4.) Don't get snagged by the self pity, sadness trap, because you could get drawn into the living death called depression. Believe me when I tell you that you do not want to end up there. Depression is a type of mental illness which disrupts and harms the lives of those afflicted with it.
Romantic movies and music sometimes have this "sweet melancholy" that seems beautiful and feels good. But this sadness is artificially induced and ends with the conclusion of the movie or song. But true sadness comes from within ourselves and is a trap that may never let us back out.
5.) Finally and most importantly, be optimistic about your life and make plans for the future. This also applies to your love life. People the world over and throughout history have had breakups and have moved on to live happy lives.
It may be that you can reunite with your ex. But if it isn't in the cards, then there will be another someone in your life. You need only put forth the effort and just go ahead and do it. - 16035
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