Do you want to get your ex back after they dumped you for wronging them in some way? Maybe you cheated on them or were too controlling or you fought and argued with them all the time. At some point, they got fed up and dumped you.
Now you've learned a lesson or two. You are sorry for what you've done. You want them back. The good news is that you can recover from the damage you caused the relationship and win them back, if you follow an emotionally powerful proven plan. Plus, you don't need to wait 30 days or longer to get your ex back, you can often repair the damage in hours.
The first thing proven method to getting your ex back after wronging them is to admit to yourself that you did wrong them. You did something or somethings that hurt them. You caused them to go from a heart full of love for you to a heart full of sadness or anger or pain about you. You did that. You cheated on them or you argued and fought with them and they finally had it.
This first step is important because you know how we human beings are. We like to place the blame for bad things outside ourselves. We blame our ex or we blame the drinking or the stress or the loneliness for what we did. We don't want to accept responsibility for our bad behaviors.
The second step is to then admit this to your ex. Dont make excuses, dont try to explain, dont say it didnt mean anything. Talk to your ex and fess up. In your own words say I wronged you. This is one of the most powerful things you can do.
When someone hurts us one of the first things we want to know is if they understand that they hurt us. We dont want to hear excuses and reasons and arguments. We need to know they know what they did wrong. When we understand that, we can start to forgive.
Until we know that our mate understands that cheating was wrong, or being too controlling was wrong, we arent ever going to be sure they wont repeat the bad behavior. And so we cant start to forgive. If you want your ex to forgive make sure one of the first things out of your mouth, before you ever say Im sorry, is to say I wronged you!
So before you get to actually apologizing, you should do certain things first. The above two steps are a good place to start. Acknowledging to yourself and then to your ex what you did wrong is a nice beginning to repairing the damage. - 16035
Now you've learned a lesson or two. You are sorry for what you've done. You want them back. The good news is that you can recover from the damage you caused the relationship and win them back, if you follow an emotionally powerful proven plan. Plus, you don't need to wait 30 days or longer to get your ex back, you can often repair the damage in hours.
The first thing proven method to getting your ex back after wronging them is to admit to yourself that you did wrong them. You did something or somethings that hurt them. You caused them to go from a heart full of love for you to a heart full of sadness or anger or pain about you. You did that. You cheated on them or you argued and fought with them and they finally had it.
This first step is important because you know how we human beings are. We like to place the blame for bad things outside ourselves. We blame our ex or we blame the drinking or the stress or the loneliness for what we did. We don't want to accept responsibility for our bad behaviors.
The second step is to then admit this to your ex. Dont make excuses, dont try to explain, dont say it didnt mean anything. Talk to your ex and fess up. In your own words say I wronged you. This is one of the most powerful things you can do.
When someone hurts us one of the first things we want to know is if they understand that they hurt us. We dont want to hear excuses and reasons and arguments. We need to know they know what they did wrong. When we understand that, we can start to forgive.
Until we know that our mate understands that cheating was wrong, or being too controlling was wrong, we arent ever going to be sure they wont repeat the bad behavior. And so we cant start to forgive. If you want your ex to forgive make sure one of the first things out of your mouth, before you ever say Im sorry, is to say I wronged you!
So before you get to actually apologizing, you should do certain things first. The above two steps are a good place to start. Acknowledging to yourself and then to your ex what you did wrong is a nice beginning to repairing the damage. - 16035
About the Author:
You can learn specific Immediate Reconnect Strategies for getting your ex back in a book about Get Your Love Back Now. Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Mamma Couldn't Teach You here at Help For Relationships.
