Friday, February 27, 2009

How to Get Back Together with Your Ex in Easy Steps

By Redford Stanten

Breaking up a relationship usually leads to one party deciding that all they want is to get back together. In the beginning it may have been a mutual decision, but with a little time the feeling that you don't want the relationship to end can become very strong. Understand that is normal and suddenly wanting everything to be the way it was before is a part of it all.

It can be very confusing when a breakup happens and it is easy to become depressed. What exactly you can do to mend the relationship is something you find yourself wondering all day long. Probably your first reaction is to pick up the phone and call. You figure you can always beg to get back together, right? Rather than make things better, what this probably will do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.

A break up is an incredibly emotional event. At a time like this it is best to stop and think things through before taking action. It's tempting to just follow your heart and do whatever comes to mind. This may actually be one of the problems in the relationship. If you can just quiet your thoughts and give yourself some time to consider things rather than just reacting the results will be much better.

One of the biggest problems with a breakup is the constant questioning of what went wrong. We all have been in situations where we just can't stop ourselves from rehashing things over and over. If you can get yourself to the point that you can accept the reality of where you are this will be a big help in moving forward and possibly getting back together. When things are calm it's easier to look at things and make good decisions. If your ex knows that you accept where things are, it makes it more likely that a meaningful conversation can start.

If it's possible, it is best to just not communicate for a while. This quiet does wonders in letting the dust settle. It's so easy for things to get out of hand. If you have a little time you can go back to thinking of what was so good about the relationship and why you wanted it in the first place. If there is any hope of getting back together your ex has to be able to remember just why the relationship is so important.

Getting back together is something that won't happen unless your ex can actually miss you and want you back. If there is time when you are not around, this allows these feelings to come out and increases the chance that you can work things out.

There will be a time when you and your ex meet again. It may be accidental or you may plan to get together. Either way you need to consider how you will handle this. It's important to watch what is said and how it is said. This is not a time to kid yourself. You want to really be honest about whether or not your ex seems to want to get back together. (And whether, given how things go, you are still interested in resuming the relationship!)

"How to get back together with my ex?" This isn't an easy question, but the best advice is to be calm and open to whatever situation presents itself. Having given the relationship some breathing room it is often clear that there are real feelings between people which can lead you to reconnect. - 16035

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